This is truly timely. A part of me keeps trying to tell the other parts, ‘There is time’. I’m so tired from spinning all the different plates at once! But pausing feels like ‘stopping’. Sigh.
🥺💜 I get you completely, the pressure is so, so real. It’s so easy to tell someone/yourself “just give yourself a break!!! it’s not that deep!!! you’re gonna burnout!!!” but so much harder to do it in practice. One thing that helps me now is trying to be more compassionate to myself in the moment, like ‘if this was my bestie feeling like this, what would I want her to know?’ and showing up for yourself in those small moments, like just talking nicer to myself with my internal voice or just saying “ok, this isn’t saying that you aren’t going to do it all, but you’re too stressed out/anxious to do it right now so just go again tomorrow” or something, that helped me build up to the bigger acts of self compassion like saying no to big asks or allowing myself to put bigger things on the back burner… a book I would highly recommend on this topic is Women Who Work Too Much by Tamu Thomas!!! chefs kiss. she gets it.
Yes, I have that book and will definitely be picking it back up. She was a powerhouse of wisdom at the BB weekend. It's so true, I find myself so much better at compassionate internal talk these days, that is 100% a game changer. I feel like there is some grief though with allowing myself to pause and accept that I have limits, not because I am flawed but because I am human. I was not ready for parenthood to bring that out!
One person who has helped me with that compassionate voice is Dr Thema. I'm currently veeeeery slowly reading her book Homecoming. I find her just so calming. I often leave her book feeling like, 'it's ok', or at least 'it will be ok'. But it's still hard somedays and I guess, I'm still learning that is ok too. Thanks so much for this and for sharing yourself in this way. It is very easy to idealize others and I found hearing your own journey so helpful.
This is truly timely. A part of me keeps trying to tell the other parts, ‘There is time’. I’m so tired from spinning all the different plates at once! But pausing feels like ‘stopping’. Sigh.
🥺💜 I get you completely, the pressure is so, so real. It’s so easy to tell someone/yourself “just give yourself a break!!! it’s not that deep!!! you’re gonna burnout!!!” but so much harder to do it in practice. One thing that helps me now is trying to be more compassionate to myself in the moment, like ‘if this was my bestie feeling like this, what would I want her to know?’ and showing up for yourself in those small moments, like just talking nicer to myself with my internal voice or just saying “ok, this isn’t saying that you aren’t going to do it all, but you’re too stressed out/anxious to do it right now so just go again tomorrow” or something, that helped me build up to the bigger acts of self compassion like saying no to big asks or allowing myself to put bigger things on the back burner… a book I would highly recommend on this topic is Women Who Work Too Much by Tamu Thomas!!! chefs kiss. she gets it.
Yes, I have that book and will definitely be picking it back up. She was a powerhouse of wisdom at the BB weekend. It's so true, I find myself so much better at compassionate internal talk these days, that is 100% a game changer. I feel like there is some grief though with allowing myself to pause and accept that I have limits, not because I am flawed but because I am human. I was not ready for parenthood to bring that out!
One person who has helped me with that compassionate voice is Dr Thema. I'm currently veeeeery slowly reading her book Homecoming. I find her just so calming. I often leave her book feeling like, 'it's ok', or at least 'it will be ok'. But it's still hard somedays and I guess, I'm still learning that is ok too. Thanks so much for this and for sharing yourself in this way. It is very easy to idealize others and I found hearing your own journey so helpful.
Thoroughly enjoyed your - I liked the format :) Folake
Thanks Folake 💜😄